We all know that Friendship is a relationship of mutual affection between people. It is a stronger form of interpersonal bond than an association, and has been studied in academic fields such as communication, sociology, social psychology, anthropology, and philosophy, but what if these bonding turns toxic? Here are the five traits of a “Toxic friend“
A toxic friend has a aptitude for spreading their toxicity to others, according to Bonior. “When you’re with that person, they bring out behaviours in you that you shouldn’t” she explains. Maybe you’re drinking too much, gossiping, or being passive-aggressive with them when you’re normally doing good.
1. They support antipathy
Researchers have found that misplaced empathy can be bad for you and others, leading to exhaustion and apathy, and preventing you from helping the very people you need to. Worse, people’s empathetic tendencies can even be harnessed to manipulate them into aggression and cruelty. They may jump fast into criticizing others without putting themselves in other people’s shoes or seem to be cold or just out of touch for people that are suffering or are less fortunate.
As many psychiatric conditions are associated with deficits or even lack of empathy, we discuss a limited number of these disorders including psychopathy/antisocial personality disorders, borderline and narcissistic personality disorders, autistic spectrum disorders, and alexithymia, according to BioPsychoSocial Medicine.com
2. They make you cross your boundaries
Toxic people do incredibly inappropriate things and they can make you cross your boundaries. especially something that’s unhealthy or harmful. Unhealthy boundaries involve a disregard for your own and others’ values, wants, needs, and limits. … Here are some examples of what unhealthy boundaries may look like: Disrespecting the values, beliefs, and opinions of others when you do not agree with them. Not saying “no” or not accepting when others say “no. They may try to put you down constantly without knowing.
3. They’re jealous of your good luck
A jealous friend is needy and constantly looking for reassurance that they are the only one and that no one is a threat to replace them. At its worst jealously can manifest in controlling and distrustful behavior, and even physical or emotional abuse Tho would never express it on the outside, but also they won’t pay more attention to your joy.
When insecurity in our relationships run rampant, jealousy can rapidly grow into paranoia and obsession and threaten to destroy the very relationship we’re most afraid to lose.
4. They make feel unworthy
If you often feel let down by your friend, even after setting expectations. … you feel pressured to do things you don’t want to do. you don’t want to talk to your friend about important things, your friend is toxic. He could be the reason for the negative vibes in your surroundings, additionally they may communicate about the topics, you’re not good at, and may insult you indirectly. These is one of the essential though harmful trait of a toxic friend. They could make you pessimistic and disappear your encouragement at work, or anything.
5. They don’t get closer to you.
Probably just as telling, and just as hurtful, is when a former confidante decides to exclude you from their narrative. A good friend is eager to share details about their lives, hear feedback and get advice — because they depend on you as a friend, too. They never shared details about their personal life and moreover they didn’t take any interest about your personal life that matters you the most. These indirectly signs they don’t trust you..
How to handle these kind of people?
1. Don’t get drawn in any of their deeds.
2. Learn to say no
3. Don’t apologize if it’s not your fault
4. Stay aware of the suitation
5. Stay away from them
6. Don’t let them control you
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