Four strategies that will raise your self esteem

When you’re in a company of different people and you are wordless or may you just kept neglecting the conversation or you don’t have any kind of intrest in introducing yourself. You are more likely to be known as an absurd person and guess that is why no one talks to you, & you became the main subject of the joke. Umm, however this is not “actually” how it goes, but low self-esteem acts somewhat like this. People with low self-esteem – who feel poorly about themselves and judge themselves to be inferior to others – are at risk, then, of not fulfilling their true potential in life. They may not take the initiative to set and pursue personal goals; they may not put any effort into their education or careers; they may accept poor treatment from family, friends and romantic partners.

A young person with healthy self-esteem is more likely to display positive behavioural characteristics, such as: acting independent and mature, taking pride in their accomplishments/acheivements , Trying new things, etc.


Causes of low self-esteem

How people feel about themselves is a result of their experiences and how they tackle with situations. But there are major resons for a lower self esteem..

1. You compare yourself with others.


It’s been an essential statement I give everytime,”comparision is way more toxic to your mental health”. You might reject opportunities coming your ways, just because you don’t have enough trust on yourself. when we compare ourselves to others, we look at their strengths and focus on our weaknesses, or we focus on their achievements and our lack of achievements. This is not a fair comparison and will often lead to doubt and loss of self-confidence.

2. You compare yourself with others.

Mistakes are a fact of life. It is the response to error that counts.” – …

Nikki Giovanni.


Learn to forgive yourself for small mistakes, and rather than regretting about what you did, find out the way how you’re going to make it. Forgiveness is important to the healing process since it allows you to let go of the anger, guilt, shame, sadness, or any other feeling you may be experiencing, and move on. Once you identify what you’re feeling, give a voice to it and accept that mistakes are inevitable.

Have a conversation with yourself and know what exactly your fault is. When you do it, you’re warning your mind to avoid it, learning from your past experiences. Learn to stop overthinking negative things, alternate your thoughts with positive ones. Learn more at my previous blog about curing overthinking.

3. Loneliness

Yes, Loneliness. We all get lonely from time to time—after a breakup, at a new job, in a new city. Or sometimes for no obvious reason at all. But whatever the case, we have the power to relieve those uncomfortable, unwelcome feelings. Loneliness can be normal, and is only an indicator of underlying disease when feelings become excessive, all-consuming and interfere with daily living . The findings of the study of General Self-efficacy Scale (Jerusalem and Schwarzer, 1979)  showed that females reported higher loneliness compared to their males counter mates. Lower self-esteem and lower self-efficacy were associated with high levels of loneliness.


Ways to increase your self esteem

• Develop healthy self motivating habits


• Correct your self esteem in a positive way


• Appreciate yourself for your good deeds.


• Remember it’s ok to not to be perfect, despite your small faults.


• Ensure your learning from your past experiences.


• Write five things you’re good at, whenever you’re feeling under the weather.


{ Get more tips on my Instagram account : @only.mental_health_ }


4. Body image

” To me beauty is about being comfortable in your own skinskin,  it’s about knowing and accepting who you are”

– Ellen DeGeneres

The University of Washington’s Teen Health and the Media webpage reports that 53% of girls surveyed were unhappy with their bodies, a number that rises to 78% by the age of 17, according to goodchoicesgoodlife.org .Body image and self-esteem directly influence each other—and your feelings, thoughts, and behaviours. If you don’t like your body (or a part of your body), it’s hard to feel good about your whole self. Pessimism has a way of leading to more negative thinking. When you have a positive and healthy body image, you feel more capable and energetic. You keep realistic expectations and respect yourself, consequently boosting self-esteem and here judging is an indirect reason for you cynical thoughts about body image.

Six Techniques to create a positive body image

• List ten things you can do physically

• Surround yourself in an healthy and constructive circle of people & friends.

• Avoid comparing your body with those of celebs.

• Remember, by underestimating your body, you’re also neglecting your other abilities, which automatically leads to depression.

• Diets are toxic. Take care of your mental health.

• Don’t let people’s opinion define who you are.


Lower self esteem effects people’s way of communication, people with lower self esteem are tend to get more nervous.


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