Four symptoms of a devastating relationship.

Breaking up is no more a rare deed especially among the young generations. Breaking up is the tendancy of today’s youth / adults too, which leaves a really worsen impact on their future, especially on their mental health.
The average rate of divorce across all years and all regions was 4.08 divorces for every 1,000 married people and the most commonly reported major contributors to divorce were lack of commitment, infidelity, and conflict/arguing.

Balancing a relationship is as much as necessary as attending an important meeting. Frequently, prioritising unimportant things, or  c little things could imbalance the relationship between people and that’s why there are chances of break ups or ending relation which may trigger trauma or other mental disorders.

Here are four signs that ruin relationships.

1. Lying

To be trusted is a greater compliment than being loved.

Two individuals stay in the relationship on the base of the trust. “Lying about spending time with another person is a death knell to a relationship, Lying destroys trust.  Faith is the base of the strong bond in a relationship. If there is no trust, an individual may not listen to or take heed to anything the other person says. When a partner lies, the spouse being lied to might feel devastated and distant.  Lying can be knowingly exhausting, it can increase the risk that people will be punished, it can threaten people’s self-worth by preventing them from seeing themselves as “good” people, and it can generally erode trust in society and that’s how it leaves a negative impact on their mental state. lying is thought to trigger the release of stress hormones, increasing heart rate and blood pressure. It’s essential to think about the ensues before reacting.
Even one bad deed could brew healthy relationships.

2. Bad behavior


Bad behavior includes jealousy, prior to wrong things, constant anger, disbelief, etc.
Jealousy can rear its head in any relationship. It’s a destructive emotion: it has the potential to suffocate a happy partnership and break down the trust that was there. Jealousy can cause you to experience a range of feelings, from insecurity and suspicion to rejection, fear, anger or anxiety.A new study has confirmed that cell phone use could be ruining your relationship and making you depressed. . “These lower levels of relationship satisfaction, in turn, led to lower levels of life satisfaction and, ultimately, higher levels of depression,” explained one of the study’s authors, James A.
Anger is the second term of fatality especially when two individuals get involved in a new relationship. Anger management plays a very vital role in balancing connection. Moreover, anger could cause problems with blood pressure, skin problems, insomnia, etc.
To avoid constant anger, Don’t react without thinking,or try to be humorous and humble.

3. Acting on the basis of myths


There’s one well known belief that Jealousy is a sign of true love and caring but actually the real fact is it is the sign of being more secure and cared towards the partner. Many people expect the same from their partners which could create disappointments.
Also, there’s a blind faith that If partners really love each other, they know each other’s needs and feelings  but the fact is communicating needs and feelings is a better measure of the quality of the relationship that happens when whether the partners actually listens to each other attentively. Be yourself. Be able to confess things on time and clearly to avoid misconceptions.

4. Lack of Communication


The effects of poor communication on a relationship can threaten the existence of a relationship itself. The symptoms of communication breakdown include feeling like the other person is not listening, arguing constantly, feeling like nothing of substance is being said and of course, acting defensively according to counselling.directory.org.uk.Lack of communication could enhance uncertainity about the relationship and could deteriorate the bond between the two individuals.

How seperation affects

Research has documented that parental divorce/separation is associated with an increased risk for child and adolescent adjustment problems, including academic difficulties (e.g., lower grades and school dropout), disruptive behaviors (e.g., conduct and substance use problems), and depressed mood

Emotional and behavioural problems in children are more common when their parents are fighting or separating. Children can become very insecure. Insecurity can cause children to behave like they are much younger and therefore bed wetting, ‘clinginess’, nightmares, worries or disobedience can all occur.

Qualities of a good relationship

1. Trust : Trust is the foundation for any relationship. Without it, the relationship will be shaky and will eventually fail.

2. Respect : Respect is the cornerstone of any healthy relationship. That’s when people accept each other’s flaws and value each other’s opinion equally.

3. Communication :  It is the main pillar of strong bonding between individuals involved in a kind of relationship. It avoid misconceptions.

4. Honesty : Honesty builds faith. Being honesty makes the others to trust you. It means that they are frank with each other and support them

5. Independence : Independence allows people to feel love and care you’ve gained. Both of their interests are being shared when there’s independence.

6. Acceptance : Acceptance makes it easier to appreciate the good things about their partner and their relationship leading to intimacy and care about each other.

7. Anger management : Having a proper anger  management could prevent a lot of conflicts in a relationship.

If you know any other things that leads to a break up in a relationship? Comment below!


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