Quite often things happen that makes a relationship totally boring, for example, if a person gets promoted in his job, or if he buys a new car he is supposed to shared these good news with his partner who is living in an another city, but he may not feel necessary to do so. These kind of attitude indicates that their relationship is devastating and he’s emotionally distant from his partner. It’s always important for the individuals involve in a relationship to keep the energy and enthusiasm level high, having a boredom in a relationship may also because of disconnection, gap in communication or not being vulnerable..
1 – Either being together and 2 – Not at all
Mostly, people prioritise their partner first and spend time with them 24 by 7. These is no crime indeed. But you know not any person prefers to eat rice 365 days of a year, surely it will cause boredom and he may lose his interest in that soon. Haha, that’s a funny example but it’s similar to what I’m trying to sat. Giving up other necessary tasks and ignoring friends and other relationships is wrong. Spending time with them becomes a habit and there are no ways of refreshment. The time they spend is supposed to not get valued as before and there is no new learning in that relationship as both of them tend to know each other very well.
Similarly, long distance relationships are tend to have lack of daily communication and there are less chances to know each other. Even if the people involved in a certain kind of relationship, living together yet having a tight schedule may lose the interest of the relationship they’re in. It’s important to make time for the partner no matter what. Having a busy routine makes the communication level rare, which could build misunderstandings and the bond may no longer get stronger as it is supposed to. It is essential for every single person in any kind of relationship to spend a limited time for others.
3. Not being vulnerable
You’re probably supposed to share every little thing taking place in your life, with your partner no matter if it matters or not. When you don’t feel heard and understood, it is hard to feel truly intimate with your partner. This can lead to feelings of loneliness and isolation. Frequently, in the chaos of work life people may not value sharing their thoughts or even may forget to do which may give really disturbing outcomes ahead. Trust is the main
pillar of a relationship, and trust is therefore more essential than love. Both of the individuals should have enough trust on each other, and they’re ought to open up. Many times, people may get afraid of opening up in the fear that it may hurt the other person, but these is what people does wrong and the relationship might get a worse hit which ultimately lead to a break up. Hiding something important can even affect how you feel emotionally. “Keeping information from your partner that is potentially damaging to you or them puts your body in a perpetual stress response. Once it’s out in the open, once you open up you’ll likely feel a lot better, and can begin repairing your relationship, if need be. Have one thing in mind,
“Hurt someone with a truth, but never make them happy with a lie”
. Not doing new things together
A cup of warm coffee or tea is in fact a cosy experience but during snowfall it is a joy to behold, similarly, certain things gives certain kind of joy at a certain time. In a relationship, it is important to do new things together in spite of the crowded plans. When two people begin doing new things together, they learn a lot about each other’s and their perspective. learning takes place when you ask people how they do something, listen to their answer, and try to imitate what they did. Even though if you both hold different interests it’s vital to do something together, like going on a small vacation, cycling together, or some activities which is also created a sweet memory, which gives more happiness and let you feel comfortable with that person once you get to know about that person.
However make sure you
1. Try new things together
2. Expect less
3. Stay vulnerable
4. They’re worth of your trust
5. Open up on time
6. Stay in touch
7. Have a heart to heart conversation at least once in a day
8. Prior equally to other tasks as well
9. Suprise each other at occasions with letters and presents
10. Appreciate each other
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