There are more than dozens of people with different behaviours, attitudes, perspectives and opinions working in an organization, in a classroom, etc, and therefore it is necessary to deal with all of them in order to make things work out, and a narcissist is one of them. That annoying guy who travels around showing off his abilities, praising the way he works and never feel tired of reminding people how valuable he is, could be a narcissist. So no matter how much people hates him, he always try to put himself on a pedestal and he can do anything to do that. Through gaslighting their dear ones, or threatening someone on the base of his status which means, he’s misusing his power which could irritate someone, and could leave some bad mental impact on someone.
Narcissistic personality disorder, is a kind of personality where people has an inflated sense of self-importance. They are much concern about their self esteem and status, commonly they demand attention and admiration of everyone and often exaggerate about their personality which often lead people to dislike them. These is often discovered in men.
Signs of a narcissist
1.They want to choreograph the situation.
Narcissists are often who want to be the king, and so they try to influence people and make people accept their own point of view or gaslight. (Gaslighting is when someone uses manipulation and distraction tactics to distort the truth, making their victims question their own reality, says Robin Stern, PhD, a licensed psychoanalyst, author, and co-founder and associate director for the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and an Associate Research Scientist at the Child Study Center at Yale)
They may be afraid of following someone else’s commands, (which aren’t commands always). They are often in a search of monopoly in the conversation to win the game, and to do this, they may make someone feel jealous about themselves or even threaten someone.
2. They are not sorry
Narcissistic people have a great self ego and attitude about themselves, and this is why they never accept their own faults, so even if the everyone knows they have done a mistake they will always believe themselves,despite the fact that they’ve been mistaken these may because they don’t want to get caught in a guilty or embarrassed situation, and these may hurt their self ego and that is why they blame others. These are especially known as “gasoline narcissists”
3. They lack empathy
It is not a rare thing that narcissists lack empathy. They’re similar to toddlers or simply like a 4 yrs old, stubborn and uncooperative especially when it comes to other’s emotions, they don’t show any more concern about them. Some narcissists also lack an understanding of the nature of feelings. They don’t understand how their feelings occur. They think their feelings are caused by someone or something outside of themselves. They don’t realize that their feelings are caused by their own biochemistry, thoughts, and interpretations. In a nutshell, narcissists always think you cause their feelings—especially the negative ones, as stated by mindbodygreen.com .
4. They are jealous
Narcissist are people who label themselves as an “Hotshot” person, they’re having a kind of mentality that everyone is jealous of them and their abilities, Though they are self-involved they are also incredibly insecure.But narcissists don’t find this behavior odd because they also believe that everyone is jealous of them, according to relationship coach Shula Melamed.
As their self esteem means a lot to them, they are tend to envy / get jealous of someone who surpasses them they freak out, their first response is to try to regain control over the situation to gain the power back.
5. They cherish the top-rated people in the society
Well, if you’ve ever notice a person clinging to the most uplifting person even though if no ones paying attention to them? Of course these clingy kinda people suck, and these is one of the trait of a narcissist. They always try to gain admiration of that one person who’s most respectable, so no matter if he or she aren’t interested in them. These leads that person to feel emotionally drained and they’ll always try to deny narcissists.
6. They won’t appreciate you
What good wishes can you ever expect from someone who is always busy appreciating even their smallest things.
Of course, these would be conflicting to narcissists and that is why there are chances they may try to reduce your self esteem and point out faults which sometimes are even not mistakes. A narcissist always use phrases like “You’re too bad at… ” ” It isn’t enough, you would’ve done more better ” or ” You are not worth it ” and these reason is enough to stay away from them, Narcissist can make you believe you’re not worth something, or you can’t do it. They may even try to put you on the spot and assume negative things about you all around.
A narcissist could be anyone, a partner, a friend, a colleague, a manager, a coordinator or anyone however it is important to stay away from them, being in any kinda relationship may make you feel. But no puzzle is unsolvable..
Here’s how to disarm a narcissist
1. Set boundaries
When you’re dealing with narcissist it is not easy to take the charge, however you can set boundaries. Setting boundaries means that you don’t have to resist them, don’t let them insult your abilities and don’t take them the advantage of yourself. Don’t afraid of their threatening. Whenever a narcissist makes you feel uncomfortable or unhappy make sure you’ll kick them off and not let them talk against you. Allow yourself to resist them. You have to make them feel you’re angry, or either Humour is the best defense mechanism in this situation. Using humor is a go-to solution when you don’t know how to reply when someone insults you which make them feel like you’re not taking their senseless comments to heart, and that’s why they won’t dare to talk to you like that.
2. Ignorance is the key
Narcissists are masters at gaslighting and so it is not necessary they may do these negatively, they may try some others ways to let you down, so that they could surpass you and that is what you don’t have to. If you must deal with a narcissistic personality, don’t allow them to infiltrate your sense of self or define your world. You matter, too. Regularly remind yourself of your strengths, desires, and goals. Make out some time as “me time.” Take care of yourself first and remember that it’s not your job to fix them.
3. Ask for SUPPORT!
— Turkish Proverb
Being in a company of a narcissist won’t let you love yourself, or give you a positive vibe that you should have. But don’t glue on a saddened feeling occur by them, build relationships with good people around you there are people too who’ll help you to construct an unbreakable self confidence and would enhance your optimism.
Have you ever dealt with a narcissist? Was that even more worse? Let me know what you think in the comments box.
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