Childhood is a phase in one’s life when the child is suppose to receive the love, the tenderness and the attention that is in demand by The child.
With the age of puberty one undergoes various changes emotionally, hormonally, and physically. Along with the physical needs their emotional needs is equally important and when their emotional needs are not fulfilled they are tend to host other emotional or mental disorders.
Though oftentimes children don’t open up their emotional needs to anyone. This feeling could also lead them to feel guilty because they knew their parents did everything they could but still they weren’t enough the child feel the absence of the emotional needs he lacked, but that’s the reason he / she never complain
Childhood emotional neglect occurs when parents or caregivers neglects their child’s emotions or their emotional needs. It means that the parents were unavailable when their child needed them ’emotionally’.
When the parents buy them The sufficient needs like clothes, education, health security, etc but they walled off their emotional need.
The outcomes of this kind of neglect has a long term effects on the childs mental health (as well as short-term but it is recoverable) but it affects the way how the child process their emotions and could be the victim of depression, damaged self esteem, aggressive behavior, trauma, etc.
But childhood emotional neglect has several forms too. It could take place because of the abusive or brutal behavior of their guardians that results in the absence of the childs basic needs such as lack of adequate supervision.
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If parents swings haunts your existence or they are overly critical towards the negative side of the child or if you feel insecure and anxious when the parents are around, they are abusive parents.
It’s when the parent seems in no way charmed or interested. There are no cuddles or hair ruffles, there are no nicknames or terms of endearment. Birthdays get forgotten.
Tears aren’t dried or consoled. The parent doesn’t look the child in the eye.
In a research, it was discovered that children who lacked healthy relationships are more vulnerable to their stress.
“The emotionally neglected child isn’t screamed at or hit, locked up or jeered at. they are just – often very subtly – ignored.”
Deficiency of nourishment and tenderness in relationships, contributes to the violent responses of the child in situations and unhealthy coping habits.
Because of this, there are a lot of interruptions in the child’s emotional growth.
Symptoms of childhood emotional neglects are :
• Depression and anxiety
• Getting unhealthy coping habits
• Having troubles in socializing and relationships with peers and other relationships
• Having Fear of making mistakes or doing things that will make your parents bully you / abuse you
• Getting frightened of / Hesitating when the parents are around.
• Unable to open up to the parents / family
Hyperactivity : Hyperactivity is often a symptom of having abnormal mental or physical health condition. If you have hyperactivity, you’re likely to feel depressed or anxious about the ongoing situation and your response to it.
• Low self-esteem
• Damaged self-esteem
• Bottling emotions / unable to recognize your emotions
• Have no control over expressing emotions
• Lack of focus in school
•. Substance misuse (Substance misuse is a serious public health challenge. It includes the use of illegal drugs and the inappropriate use of legal substances, such as alcohol and tobacco)
• Withdrawing from friends and activities
appearing uncaring or indifferent
If one’s upbringing takes place in an abusive or discriminative household, The child is not suppose to value his/her emotions and suppress them, The negative emotions are more likely to dwell on them which could lead them to take wrong decisions.
When their emotions are blocked off they may not have approach to the energy to initiate closeness and connection.
How to cope with it
• Differentiate between positive and negative emotions.
When you know what exactly are you feeling it is easier to find the remedy for that. Once you learn to recognize your emotions you’ll be able to deal with them.
If you want to stop negative emotions you should save yourself from such things or people that are triggering.
• Be gentle with and take good care of yourself, starting with small steps.
Its not the piece of cake to heal your traumatic areas of mind so immediately.
But the first thing you should prioritize is loving yourself. Being emotionally neglected all you need is emotions that you feel absence of. Before anyone else you should start loving yourself. Often it could lead to insecurities and irritation but it’s okay.
Ask for help. Tell your family what you’re lacking, tell a friend, explain them what exactly is the problem. Or else treat yourself with all love and care.
If something harms your mental health, just don’t do it. Give yourself enough time and don’t rush into the process. Settle down on your own terms.
During this, don’t let yourself feel bad about it. Have a conversation with yourself.
Self talk is the most relieving technique to help yourself. When you talk with yourself you’re vulnerable, you know your flaws and talking just helps you to untangled all the chaotic emotions that you’re struggling with.
A psychologist or therapist can help a child learn to cope with their emotions in a healthy way. If a child is used to suppressing their emotions, it may be difficult to recognize and experience emotions in a healthy way.
Accept that your feelings, needs, and wants matter as much as anyone else’s.
Say ‘no’ as to set emotional boundaries.
Saying no is not cruel, it’s just a choice. If you reject something that would be ‘bad’ for you or you were emotionally unstable to do something it is acceptable to not do that and continue your own business.
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