Five parental mistakes you should AVOID


Nowadays, getting to know the child hasn’t been an easy deal. I’ve written a lot about teenage mental health issues but early childhood and middle childhood is also important, and during these years, everything leave an impact on the child’s brain directly and indirectly.

Apart from depression and anxiety there are other things that contributes to their psychological health

By changing the way you treat the children could even make a big difference. Many parents are unknown about things related to child psychology which often leads them to act in such a way that would evolve bad negative personality.

Getting to know your child more better
helps parents to understand them and view things according to their views.

This helps to teach the child sensibly about things around, and things that are yet to come their way.
Similarly, surrounding can impact the preschool children as well.

They’re supposed to shower with Love and affection which benefits children to feel secure regardless of accomplishments. This builds their confidence and self-esteem.

Supporting the child when needed and keep uplifting his/her mindset makes them believe in themselves and thus they lack anxiety and nervousness.

But wait, you can go one step forward and avoid some habits that would eventually end up building a good mental bond of your child.

Here’s what to AVOID

Adultery or serious discussions in the presence of the child


From birth to age 5, a child’s brain develops more than at any other time in life. An early brain development has a lasting impact on a child’s ability to learn and succeed in school and life and thus they’re more active at this age.


Oftentimes, adults held important and adultery discussions at the same place where children are more likely to listen. Even though the children aren’t listening, the topics discussed does affects the their brains.

It could lead them to think or develop curiousity about some matured or dispensable matters or lead them to gain wrong and unclear knowledge about something.


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Avoid arguments, cursing and  fights in front of the child


You may have notice that during a child’s early growth, he tries to mimics their parents, he tries to repeat what his parents said, he try to fold the clothes the same way as their mom does and etc.

This is why you should avoid fights and arguments in the presence of the child. It encourages them to turn into a violent person.

Constantly listening to the bad words or negative statements cultivates negativity in the child’s mind and being unaware of what the consequences would be, they may start saying the same things.


However, parents should ensure if they don’t talk serious issues in front of the child.

Avoid their “over-screen time”


Everyone owes an uptight schedule today (probably not today, but they do) and especially these days people are working from home which has make it easier to spend quality time with the kids.


However it gets more chaotic for the parents to manage their screaming children and an important meeting at the same time and so people has a solution ‘Mobile phone’.

Once the child posses it, he / she get lingered to it for hours, giving access to YouTube could be okay to them but sometimes they may come in contact with mature contents, or violent scenes which are more likely to draw their minds.

These could feed them inappropriate information.
Also, lot of screen time has been linked with trouble with sleeping.


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Avoid watching mature or dispensable contents (for the child) in the presence of child


If you’re planning to watch films containing sexuality, voilence or subjects that aren’t for certain age groups with the child ( lol no one would do that but in the case if the child accidentally watches) STOP.

As mentioned earlier, the childs brain is more active at this time than any other age and hence, they’re tend to get drawn by anything easily. Watching horror movies, violent scenes or any other unsuitable genre (for the kids) affects them the same way. It could increase their addiction too.

Avoid scolding


When your child drop the plates accidentally it’s annoying, and you scold them this is the reason they’ll drop it but once again (maybe they don’t but) because you scolding them even before listening to them. Don’t you do this?

In the childhood, a child is stubborn, throws tantrums and does enough  mistakes to get scolded by parents  don’t punish them for every small mistakes.

These demotivates them to try new things
Initially, avoid reacting in an annoying way. These is why they do it more. Scolding doesn’t fix the problem but leads them to ignore you and the mistake could be repeated.
Talking about children aged around 8 Or 7 onwards.

Scolding and humiliation could make them feel inferior and they might develop low self-esteem as they grow up. They would become indecisive and in tough situations, they might not be able to hold themselves together.


But you know what? Try to explain them playfully, in a playful way


Instead of scolding them first


• Listen to their opinion
• Understand it
• Tell them politely why it shouldn’t be done and elaborate the aftermath of their actions
• Get them their favorite ice cream
(Your choice ; as to ensure they wouldn’t do it the next time & would feel sorry too)


Let me know your experience


@greysky18


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